June 19, 2005
Remembering a special father
Inasmuch as I am one of ten children of the marriage of Walter M. and Margaret Kirkendall, I have a large number of family members (over 30 nieces and nephews at last count), many of whom are regular readers of this blog. This particular blog post is primarily for those family members and our family friends, but even if you are not a member of those groups, feel free to read on and learn about a special father and a remarkable Houstonian.
The memory of where I was when my father died remains indelibly etched on my mind.
Shortly after 8:00 a.m. on Saturday morning, July 13, 1991, I was preparing to play golf in Iowa City, Iowa during my 20th high school reunion. Unexpectedly, the pro shop summoned me from the first tee that I had a telephone call. When I reached the phone, my brother Matt was on the line with terrible news.
Our father, Dr. Walter M. Kirkendall, had suffered a serious heart attack moments earlier in a Chicago-area hotel room while preparing to attend his niece Sarah's wedding with our mother. At the time of the call, Matt did not know whether our father had survived the attack. Minutes later, after I had quickly returned to my hotel room to gather my things for a hurried trip to Chicago, Matt called again. Our father had died that morning in Chicago at the age of 74, probably before I had left the golf course in Iowa City.
Consequently, my memories of Walter Kirkendall's death are inextricably intertwined with golf. To a large degree, that is utterly appropriate because, over the final 15 years of his life, Walter and I spent countless hours together golfing.
These regular golf games began in 1976 when I entered law school at the University of Houston. Back then, we would rise early most weekend and holiday mornings to play the venerable back nine at Memorial Park Golf Course in Houston.
In 1982, we transferred those weekly games at Memorial to several Houston-area clubs, concluding at Lochinvar Golf Club. The final time I saw Walter alive was the Sunday morning before his death when we played golf together at Lochinvar. Inasmuch as he played quite well that day, one of my enduring memories of Walter is his chortling in the clubhouse as he collected his golf bets from me.
Thus, my golfing memories of Walter are surrounded by an aura of good fortune and warm appreciation. Good fortune because golf allowed me to enjoy many hours of Walter's wisdom, insight, and humor. Warm appreciation because golf allowed me to give something back to this man who premised his life on giving to others.
You see, despite his love of golf, Walter never became an active member of a private golf club. Walter gladly sacrificed something that would have been primarily for his enjoyment -- that is, golf on a private course -- for what he considered the more important needs of his large (ten children!) family. Accordingly, as I joined several golf clubs over the final decade of Walter's life, I made a point to give Walter an opportunity to play golf at those clubs as much as he wanted. His pure enjoyment of our golf outings is one of my life's greatest satisfactions.
In addition to being a special father, Walter Kirkendall was a remarkable doctor and teacher. Born in 1917 and raised in Louisville, Kentucky, Walter graduated from the University of Louisville Medical School in 1941 and then went to the University of Iowa in Iowa City for an internship the following year. As with many men of his generation, Walter finished his internship and residency at Iowa just in time to serve three years as an Army medical officer in North Africa and Italy during World War II, after which he returned to Iowa City to complete his training in medicine.
In 1949, Walter joined the University of Iowa Medical School Faculty and -- along with esteemed colleagues such as Jack Eckstein, William Bean, Lew January, Frank Abboud and many others -- proceeded to play a major role in the development of the University of Iowa's fine medical school over the next 23 years.
Walter and his colleagues were at the forefront of the post-WWII doctors who embraced the optimistic view of therapeutic intervention in the practice of medicine, which was a fundamental change from the sense of therapeutic powerlessness that was widely taught to these men by their pre-WWII professors. Several of Walter's colleagues have told me that Walter's attitude of therapeutic optimism was his greatest contribution to the education of his students.
Over his 40+ year academic career, Walter developed a program of teaching and research in hypertension and renal disease for which he received national and international recognition. His first professional publications were on renal disease, but by the mid-1950's, he was publishing papers on hypertension and the effects of drugs in patients. After 1960, almost all of his 85 abstracts and 72 papers involved research on the clinical pharmacology of hypertension. In addition to his teaching, research, and service on multiple professional committees, Walter also directed the Cardiovascular Research Laboratories at the University of Iowa from 1958-70 and the Renal-Hypertension Division from 1970-72. Iowa honored Walter for his contributions to the University by awarding him the Distinguished Achievement Award in 1986.
Perhaps most remarkably, however, is that Walter in 1972 -- at the age of 55 when most other academics are settling in to comfortable surroundings -- decided to uproot his large family and move to Houston where he became the first Chairman of the Department of Medicine at the then-new University of Texas Medical School in Houston's famed Texas Medical Center.
In Houston, Walter continued his professional passions -- teaching, research and clinical medicine -- for the remainder of his life at UT-Houston. In addition to being the first Chairman of the Department of Medicine, Walter was director of UT-Houston's Hypertension Unit from 1976 and director of the General Medicine Division from 1982 until his death. During his 20 years at UT-Houston, Walter became the patriarch of UT-Houston's faculty and student body, reflected by the UT-Houston alumni awarding him the first Benjy F. Brooks Medal in 1991 as the outstanding clinical faculty member, the school's naming of it's internal medicine library and suite in Walter's honor, and the Walter M. Kirkendall Endowed Lecture Series that UT-Houston sponsors each year.
Consequently, the foregoing outlines Walter's remarkable professional legacy -- two institutions served for over 20 years each while teaching and pursuing cutting edge research in a key area of medicine throughout his career. James T. Willerson, M.D., the current president and medical director of the Texas Heart Institute, observed the following in his eulogy at UT-Houston's memorial service for Walter:
Dr. Frank Abboud called me two days ago, wanted to come join me yesterday, early in the morning to visit and talk about Dr. Kirkendall, and then go to his funeral with me. . . Dr. Abboud told me that people in Iowa at the Medical School had never felt that Dr. Kirkendall had left. He was still there. What he had given, what he represented, what he continued to give was part of Iowa.
Can you imagine having that impact on an institution, and people years after you've left? Dr. Kirkendall did. How many of us could claim the same thing, ever?
But the foregoing summary cannot adequately convey Walter's truly endearing qualities. He was a devoted teacher to his medical students and residents, and was constantly interested in the development of their careers. Patients appreciated his thoroughness, fairness and profound concern for them and their families. Many conversations with Walter invariably turned to stories about his aversion to wastefulness, the clutter in his office, his sense of humor, his competitiveness, and his suspicion that the sodium ion is bad for one's health.
The following eulogies that were given at Walter's funeral and memorial service elaborate on these qualities: the eulogy of my brother Bud, who is a district judge in Seguin, TX; my eulogy; the eulogy of my brother Matt, who is an internist in Dubuque, Iowa; the memorial service closing of my sister Mary, who is a pediatric emergency room physician in San Antonio; the eulogy of Dr. Willerson; the eulogy of Dr. Chevis M. Smythe, and the eulogy of Dr. Philip Johnson.
I close with two of my favorite stories about Walter. One is recounted by Tom S. McHorse, M.D., former president of the Travis County, Texas (Austin) Medical Association. Dr. McHorse recalls vividly his experience with Walter in examining a patient while in medical school:
The setting is the University of Iowa Hospital staff service ward one February morning. For physicians who graduated after 1980, ward is defined as a large room with eight to ten patient beds separated by curtains, as many emergency rooms currently have. As medicine was practiced in 1968, acute MIs, bacterial endocarditis, and other illnesses were treated in hospital for six weeks or more. The patient in bed four was such an extended stay patient.
Dr. Kirkendall was rounding with his entourage of residents and nurses. As we approached this frequently examined patient, a distinct change was obvious from the day before. The patient truly had the worst "soup bowl" haircut you can imagine. At bedside, Dr. Kirkendall addressed his first question to the patient:"Who cut your hair?"
"The hospital barber," replied the patient, somewhat taken aback.Dr. Kirkendall was clearly not pleased as he turned to his residents and declared:"Incompetence at any level should not be tolerated."
I have no memory of the patient's diagnosis or anything else Dr. Kirkendall taught us that week, but I have long remembered that statement of Dr. Kirkendall.
The second story was passed along by Dr. Smythe in his eulogy during UT-Houston's memorial service for Walter, in which he recounted a particularly personal experience with Walter:
Now, at this time, I want to skip ahead to something very personal. 1975-76 was also not a bed of roses at this institution. And, when I was bounced out of the Dean's Office, I was profoundly hurt, very profoundly hurt, and, I was also puzzled. Since those who were relatively active in my demise had been the people to whom I was closest, I was also alone and considerably puzzled as to whom to turn.
Now, Dr. Kirkendall himself was under no mean pressure at that same time. And indeed, the forces that were playing on us were pretty much identical. But, Walter is the person who said "Cheves, come to my office every Thursday at 11:00 o'clock." And, he was a person who said "I will help you retrain yourself as a physician." And, he did.
And, that episode illustrated this man's extraordinary generosity of spirit more than anything that I've ever seen.
I will be grateful to him for the rest of my life.
Walter's understanding of the importance of service to others is the thread that binds the fabric of families, friendships, schools, professions, communities, and, ultimately, societies. In his quiet and confident manner, Walter understood the importance of his life's work, and this understanding formed the cornerstone of his unbendable sense of fulfillment and contentment in his personal and professional life. In my book, that's quite a fine legacy, and I am taking this Father's Day to appreciate my blessing to have been touched by it.
Posted by Tom at June 19, 2005 4:00 PM |
Inspiring Big T.
My Take: Like Father. . . . . . Like Son.
Posted by: jd walt at June 19, 2005 11:54 PM
For those of us who read your blog "religiously" the moving story of your father's life was a rare treat. Thank you for sharing it. Certainly you,yourself, are part of his remarkable, humane legacy.
Posted by: forrest at June 20, 2005 7:46 AM
Thank you for posting this wonderful remembrance of your father.
Training under him as a resident, working in his research lab as a chief resident, and gladly accepting of his mentoring as a junior faculty member, I can say easily that Walter M. Kirkendall was the most influential person in my professional career. While he was an excellent clinical physician, I have always thought of him primarily in his role as teacher, and he will be firmly entrenched in my mind as "the Professor".
One of his great gifts was the ability to recognize a person's potential, often before that person (read as "me") realized it himself. He set the bar high for those in whom he saw that potential, but the bar was never as high as the standard to which he held himself.
Too often, we go through life appreciative of those persons who have been a positive role model for us, but not taking the time to thank that person for their influence, leading to long-lasting regrets. I am most thankful that, shortly after moving from Houston to Lubbock, I sat down one afternoon and wrote a note to the Professor, thanking him for being such a positive force in my professional and personal life. I got the greatest letter in return, filled with humble and modest deferrals about what he had done, and building me up with further emotional support. And of course, since it was from Walt, it also contained the obligate barb about college football (about those times when the UofH was to play Texas Tech). I've got that letter from him framed on the wall of my office at home, next to a copy of the same photo of him that accompanies the original blog post and the program from his memorial service.
I would encourage each of you who read this blog to take the time to thank those in your lives who have been influential to you. You won't regret it.
In closing, I want to say that, in my very small way, I hope to contribute toward keeping the legacy of Professor Kirkendall ongoing. I have two children - both sons. They are named for the two most influential persons in my life:
Matthew Tuckey Baker - named after J. G. Tuckey, my grandfather, and
Jeffrey Kirkendall Baker.
Thanks again, Tom.
Posted by: jim bob baker at June 20, 2005 9:29 AM
The memories I have of grandpa are all great. My fondest was when aunt Mary and I went to a gag store to pick up some fake dog poo (you should remember that UT) and a handshake buzzer.
As most around him will note, Grandpa had the Kirkendall Death Claw in which he would squeeze the holy heck out of your hand. Although too young to realize he aligns your knuckles and squeezes, I took the handshake buzzer and put it on my hand in anticipation of the death claw. The exact moment and seconds later from his reaction will go on forever in my memory.
Not only did he jump backwards with his death claw hand flailing upwards, Grandpa gave me a very crooked look; not because he was mad, but because he got outwitted by a 10-year old.
I know this doesn?t add to the legacy of who he was, but they are memories of another Walter Kirkendall that I will cherish forever -- a great grandfather.
Posted by: Josh Kirkendall at June 20, 2005 11:34 AM
very touching and inspiring ....
my youngest son,appropriately named WALTER R. Sagehorn , has a love for science and will have a new hero once I share this story with him.
Posted by: jerry sagehorn at June 21, 2005 11:28 AM
my great grandmother was barber hand kirkendall
Posted by: h.thornburg at February 22, 2006 4:55 PM
Looking for Marianne Kirkendall Craig or her sister. Please help! Thanks, Katherine from Lafayette, LA
Posted by: katherine at March 1, 2009 1:22 PM
Great stories and nice tribute Tom--you and I both blessed with great Dads who sacrificed and taught us much. Happy Father's Day to you too. You have carried on his legacy well.
Posted by: plhughes at June 19, 2011 3:19 PM
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